Becoming A Better You

In the last two years, my family and I have experienced great loss and struggle.

Although most of this did not seem to have a "light at the end of the tunnel", each and every negative experience gave me a positive and knowledgeable outlook. The tools to be able to cope just a little better then before.

So now, my question for you is, what has helped you become a better you?

How do you work on yourself each day?

Do you work on yourself each day?

In the last two years I have come to terms with things I absolutely did not like about myself.

Instead of dwelling on them, I actively sought out ways to cope and manage my depression, anxiety, and a severe attitude problem.

I felt so defeated.

I even remember someone once saying, "what's the point? Your born how your born and you can't change that."

I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought this way myself thoughout my life.

But that answer did not resonate with my soul.

It was not good enough.

So off I went.

Self- help books, meditation, therapy, co-dependency courses, all of it. The whole shebang.

And you know what?

It worked for me.

It STILL works for me.

You see, that's the key. You have to keep working at it. You have to be committed.

Forever.

I don't want to be the person that becomes easily frustrated.

The person who mistreats loved ones.

Or speaks rudely to the employee at the drive through because she didn't hear my order right.

And thankfully, I'm not anymore.

But it takes work.

Every. Single . Day.

Taking the time to listen to a podcast.

Reading a book.

Reminding myself that it's okay to take a moment to breathe and step away from situations that would usually make me "blow my lid".

Don't get me wrong.

I'm not saying that all problems can be fixed with a little therapy, a handful of self-help books, and a morning meditation.

I'm not saying that at all.

I'm saying saying that no matter what your struggle is, it takes work.

Maybe you need medication?

Maybe you need more time to do the things you love?

Maybe a lifestyle change?

Whatever it is, you have to work at it, and for it.

I am always looking for ways to improve.

I'm not perfect. I still have anxiety.

I can still become easily irritated.

Say things I don't mean.

But what's beautiful about "the process" is that it doesn't need to be perfect.

I don't need to be perfect.

What matters is when I face a situation head on with a positive attitude.

What matters is when I don't get upset that my daughter has been acting a fool all morning.

What matters is when I don't yell at my husband because I've had a bad day and someway, somehow, I've found a way to turn it on him.

That is what matters.

The fact that I can get up every day, do better then the day before, and take care of the ones I love most.

So please friends.

Tell me how you work towards being a better you each day.

I would love to hear!

XOXO,

Dom